The greatest pain of all?? Child Birth. No doubt about it. Every time I found myself pregnant, I would tell my husband,"Bang, I'm scared..."
You want to hear? ha... haa... no you don't. Things you don't want to see, don't want to hear, don't want to endure...... sooner or later, you will face this miracle moment. Your wife, sister, mother, yourself. Yeah, miracle for others, a I-don't-want-to-be-here moment for us mothers (old & new).
Ayu (now 17) was already overdue for more than a week. I had to be admitted and induced (to get me into labour). My stomach was so big, they thought I was having twins. At around 6 pm on 16th June 92, I was having pain everywhere. I walked (no ding dong state of the art at-your-finger-tip love! this was GH) to the nurse's office and told them I was bleeding. Yup, my gown was stained with blood, and all they told me,"Belum ya..... Give it few more hours." After 'checking' my opening, they asked me to go back to my bed. Around 8/9 pm, the pain was unbearable. I dragged my feet to the nurse's office again telling them I thought the baby was coming.
"Ok. Let's bring you to the labour ward." The 'nice' nurse told me. "I think I need a wheelchair." I requested. "No, you best just walk." She answered me. Really, I didn't know what to say... beg for a wheelchair?? I did not have the energy to speak anymore words. So, I used my remaining energy to walk. It was raining heavily, wind blowing through the window panels. Yet, I was sweating profusely and had to hold on to the wall while walking to the elevator (thank god she didn't ask me to climb the stairs!!).
Through all my labours, I didn't make much noise. To me, the less noise you make, the more energy you save when it's time for you to push the baby out.
Labour tips ;
1. Breath in deeply, I mean very very deeply. Breath in deep, then exhale slowwwly. "I can't......." I had said to the nurse, half almost crying, between contractions (while in labour with Arman; now 5). Oh yes! The pain's so great, you can't even breath. So, I sat up, and do as I'm told. It actually reduces the pain. I kept at it, constantly while waiting for the baby to pop out. It really helped.
2. Have someone there to hold on to; my husband had a bruise on his arm from me squeezing him. I guess, whenever you're in pain, you will naturally would want to grab hold of something and squeeze. Someone's arm is more satisfying than the pillow.
3. While pushing, don't make too much noise like "AAAArrgghhh.!!" or whatever that would come out of your mouth. Concentrate more on pushing the baby out instead of the pain you're having.
4. Trim yourself well before your due date, get your darling to do it for you. You wouldn't be able to reach down there all by yourself.
5. Put on a pair of socks, you will sweat, but you'll feel cold most of time. The coldness is due to the extreme pain you're having.
6. Follow the doctor's instructions at all times. Push when he asks you to, and DO NOT PUSH when he says don't. If you do push when he says you're not suppose to, you might injure yourself & bleed.
Who was the easiest?? No such thing! All my four child births were hard & painful. Seri (now 15) was the quickest though. Ayu was a big baby.
When Hani (now 10) came out, my husband said my face turned all yellow, I remember staring straight at him without blinking and stayed quiet for 10 seconds. He must have thought I was dead! "Adek... Adek....." He called out to me. I was actually trying to catch my breath and enjoying the post-pain moment. When I tried pushing Arman out, I thought I did it. Opened my eyes and the doctor told me, "One more Ida..." "Hah!??" I thought, not out yet?! That was all the energy I had. I didn't want to be cut open, so I had no choice but to push harder.
The pain was worth it!!
My husband said seeing his children being born was always a miracle moment. He missed Ayu's birth as the GH does not allow husbands/family members to accompany mothers in labour.
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