Sexy Working Hubby

Alright, honestly.. I'm tired. But I have this snippet to write and been delaying it. I just have to get it out of my system!!

Sexy.. hee heee... We are still in the subject of sexy, aren't we?? Well, scroll down you guys .................. What turns you on? My hubby turns me on, of course! Who else??! What else?!! You may think it's funny but what truly turns me on is when he's busy and seriously doing his work, be it on the computer or doing some paperwork.. writing. Yeah! Specially when he's writing things with a serious face and looking like he's thinking a lot!! Huhhhhh... ! I like. LOL!!

he's not working here... just pointing at menus at a diner. love the way he holds the pen!!

I think it's his arms and his strong hands and his intelligence.. All that into one ........ Viola!! SeXyyyyy ...  Whenever he's busy with work (at home), I would stare till he catches my eyes and I would just give a silly smile. He knows I'm staring and sometimes trying to ignore it but he would giggle whenever he looks at me. Half the time I would distract him till he can't stand it but other times.. I just let him do his work. And that makes me more gerammm!! 

Sexy to me isn't just looking hot or knowing how to work it (the look). Intelligence is very very sexy, sensitivity and also modesty. It is really just up to each individual. And you should only have that feeling towards your partner, only then your relationship will work out. But then again, sex isn't everything in a relationship. Understanding, passionate, caring, considerate, good communication and patience ... very important.

Haaaa... out of my system already, so relieved. Laundry time and then sleep. Good night!

Buy Now!

If you're planning to buy new shoes, buy now! Go to Spring / Parkson because they are  having a huge sale!! 40% .. 50 % discounts. I've been looking for good quality flats and they definitely have to be at a very reasonable price. 

We went to Parkson and these deep red pair caught my eyes. Sayang says the color looks like candies. From RM90.00, it went down to RM44+ !! I just felt like buying a bold color and color is good ya'll.... ! Carlo Rino has been around for decades and they have good quality shoes/handbags. 

Talking bout handbags, I really want to share this with you. I have been writing about stuffs that I've kept and worn for years... 

Ta Daaaa!!!!!!!!!!!!

This is my 12 year old Bonia Leather Duffel Bag... The moment I set my eyes on this bag, I just had to have it. I still remember...... we were on a holiday in KL and I was pregnant with Hani that time. I purchased the handbag for RM400 ++ and still use it to this very day. One time, I stuffed a camera (besar okay!), kids' diapers, extra clothes, handphones, wallet, baby wipes etc (I don't know what else ... macam macam ada). I don't know how, but I managed to fit everything inside this awesome handbag. So reliable and stylist at the same time. Love it!! 

I looked around the departmental stores but couldn't find one that is similar or exactly like this one. I even went around Bonia corners but seems that they don't produce this model anymore... I would get another one of this particular design, I really would.

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Women Who Turn Men On ... and Off

Naturally, men are attracted to attractive women.. Attractive means sexy, beautiful, glamorous, elegant, sophisticated, down to earth plus with a very very warm smile and looking so so good!! Very important the smile you know... Pretty face with a sour impression is not pretty. It's UGLY baby! Not-so-pretty-face if accompanies with the most sincere and warmest smile makes a beautiful person. Whenever they glance at you or you just happen to turn and meet their eyes,  a smile is always ready to greet you. That makes a person beautiful.

It is not just the facial expression, how you dress is also very important. Personally, I think sexy doesn't mean a lot of skin, not to me at least. Yes, skin do turn heads, and yes... skin spells sexy. But women in jeans with simple top look very sexy and men think this look is very very attractive. 

I totally love this look! Blazers/Jackets with jeans, so cool .... so simple, comfortable and sexy. And I just can't get enough of white tops. Sayang once said to me, "I think you have enough of the white shirts already." Don't know why, I just love wearing whites. Maybe they make me feel ... productive and clean.

You can dress it up, like above ...

or you can dress it down, below ...

Women Who Turn Men Off :-

1. Wearing too much make up (like sekilo pupur/bedak)

Make up isn't suppose to overshadow you, it is suppose to highlight and accentuate your best features. Always remember, less is more. Too much, you'd be looking like a clown. And clowns aren't really a turn on, unless ... ehemmm... OKAY!!

2. Talking too much about herself

Especially when you're on a date with a great guy, he DO NOT want to hear too much about yourself... your x-bf, your giant paycheck, your yoyo weight loss/gain, etc. A bit okay, ya? But not too much. He'd love it if you listen and if the both of you listen to one another, wahhh... that's the best! But giving too much advice can also turn men off. Not that hard la... Relax, be yourself (daaaa...) and don't talk TOO much and listen more.

3. Gossiping and talk bad bout others

This one everyone knows, MENGUMPAT, badmouthing ... need I say more? Come on, what are you trying to do?? You're trying to impress the guy, this is such a negative attitude which is a MAJOR turn off.

4. Being late, all the time

Once, twice ... maybe acceptable. 'Let' him wait?? Why?! Being punctual is totally sexy, totally!! Do not want to be labeled 'Typical' now, do we??

"OHhhhh.. can't help it... I am just always late, it's just ..... ME." 

If he stops replying to your text, don't ask why. Being late is being ignorant of another person's valuable time and money! It is worse when you just let him wait and didn't bother to call/text saying you'd be late or whatever. Turn off...

5. Overdone hair

Girls, men don't really like the salon-made-hair-look. You know?? That hair that looks like you just stepped out of a salon...?? They belong on a mannequin and a bride. You can go to the salon and get your hair done but make sure it looks natural. Natural and clean. Ringlets with too much product is scary!! 

Talking bout clean, there is nothing worse than smelly hair (like it had not been washed for a week!) and dandruff infested scalp!! If you have dandruff, skip the dark top darling.

6. Worrying too much about your appearance

"Do I look fat in this .. Does the jeans make me look big??" He asked you out on a date, didn't he? Isn't that enough? So, I guess he does not really care how big or fat you look. Clearly he likes 'YOU". Never ask potential boyfriend this question.. Meaninggg..... You can ask the question only to your husband-to-be or your husband!

7. Picking a fight

Being stubborn leads to fights and misunderstandings. Discuss and say nicely, very very nicely. Anger is a real Turn Off! Personally, for me, if I'm angry, I get turned off. Don't even think you'll get lucky tonight.

8. Trying to make him feel jealous

Haha... this one is a big turn off to men. You think you want to win them over, but dia orang tak heran lah!! And of course being overly jealous is childish and unreasonable.

9. Being clingy and over manja

Can... being manja manja and being all cutey and babyish is okay. But don't do it too much and not all the time and not IN PUBLIC!! It is embarrassing and it is a tahap dewa turn off. 

10. Hairy armpits

I honestly do not know what men is turned on by this >Big Don't<. 

11. Bad manners with harsh/weird language

Feet on the table, rude towards the waitress and cursing like it's your second language. And for the Malay community, I think the 'melatah' thing is a huge turn off. I met girls as young as 18 and they 'melatah'! Even worse! They repeat their own words??!!! I pity them, men think it's ridiculous dear.

12. Cannot cook

Ehemm.. Helo, you are a woman. A woman must know how to cook. That is how the world is. "Well.. what can I do?? I don't cook." Huh, convenient. Automatic turn off mama! It's not that you don't know how to cook, anyone can learn how to cook and learns more as they go along. Just that you are L.A.Z.Y.. Lazy is a super turn off.

13. Ugly underwear

LOL! Girls, please spend a little bit extra for some cute underwears, please..! Think Victoria Secret but affordable laa.. Got.....! You just gotta go look harder, sure can afford one.

14. Wearing attention seeking clothes

Hmmmm... I am no expert on clothings. But you can ask men. Most of them think sexy/lots of skin is okay, but there're limitations. You've got to know the occasion and what type of crowd you're gonna be with. You don't wear bikinis to a birthday parties, do you?? Something like that laa... 

15. Doesn't take care of herself

Bad breath, looking dirty ... You know I know lah. This applies to wives especially. Yes, he is yours, does not mean you take things for granted. I want my husband to still think of me very desirable and sexy (though we've been married for 18 years already). If you look a mess, he will look elsewhere.

thank you all for your kind attention! :)

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"Love at first sight" is a physical and emotional impossibility. Why? Because love is much more than a romantic feeling. It is more than a sexual attraction or the thrill of the chase or a desire to marry someone. These are responses that can occur "at first sight," and they might even lead to the genuine thing in time. But those feelings are usually very temporary, and they do not mean the person who experiences them is "in love." 

The primary difference between infatuation and real love is where the emphasis lies. Temporary romantic attractions tend to be very selfish in nature. A person may say, "I can't believe what is happening to me. This is the most fantastic thing I've ever experienced! I must be in love." Notice that she's not talking about the other person. She's excited about her own gratification. Such an individual hasn't fallen in love with someone else; she has fallen in love with love!

Genuine love, by contrast, is an expression of the deepest appreciation for another human being. It is an intense awareness of his or her needs and strengths and character. It shares the longings, hopes, and dreams of that other person. It is unselfish, giving, and caring. And believe it, these are not attitudes one "falls into" at first sight, as though one were tumbling into a ditch.

Future Heirlooms

I love my things, I love everything that I own. Everybody does. I'm not the type who likes to lend clothes to other people, because I sayang my clothes. I have items as old as 20 years old which I really love and treasure.

Seri was going to a Tahlil at her friend's house the other night and she needed a tudong/selendang. I gave her my gray beaded tudong to wear. When she came back home, she told me people were commenting on the tudong, how beautiful it is. Then she told everyone it's her mom's and it is 20 years old.

Yes.. That is my 20 year old tudong, my mother-in-law (not my mom in law then... ) gave it to me when I was 17. I told her I like the color Gray and she got me the material and I sew on the beads my self.

And that hair accessory is also 20 years old! Sayang got it for me when we were in KL in 1990  and I saw this Evita Peroni hair accessories and fell in love with it the moment I saw it. It cost sayang RM18.50 (heeeheeee.. I still remember). We were at The Metrojaya that time if I'm not mistaken. Yup...! Still in good condition. And nowadays my children are wearing the two items, among others.

I wrote before, I am a keeper, a very very good keeper :)) One day they will become heirlooms. Hmmm... that would be something. It's not that hard to keep them, usually people lose their prized possessions when moving house. Do not keep them in the-not-wearing-items-boxes. Keep them together with the things you wear everyday and keep 'checking' on them whenever you remember them.. that way, you will always remember where you keep and you wouldn't lose them. I know, it is easier said than done. 

You've just got to work at it and try harder. If you love them enough, you will remember to check on them from time to time. Just to make sure they are still there for your children to wear in the future.

Stop & Smell D Durians

The durian fever... Well, the musim started months ago but I only had a taste of the king of fruits last night. Thank god we got to buy good ones. That's what put me off from buying durians most of the times... expensive and disappointing. We were lucky last night. Can you imagine the joy of eating perfect durians?? (well, almost perfect... Nothing is perfect??! but I'm happy with the bunch we bought).

cantek!

hmmmm... imagine the sweetness and lemakness.. Imagine!!

for tempoyak

Yup! Some of you might not believe it but, I have been so busy with work the past few months I didn't have enough time to stop and smell the durians, like literally!! And I have to really start doing that.. stop and smell the roses.

I would pass by the market and streets with durians all over the place but I only looked. I wanted to buy but did not really had enough desire to wanting to eat. I am a bit at peace and sane now so... when I passed by the durian vender yesterday morning, I told myself, "I must buy myself some durians today..."

Got 10 good durians last night and they are so good! Had some last night and some more for breakfast!! Yummy!! So glad I got them, imagine... I've been hearing people eating durians, they even brought some inside the office. But not enough to share with me la.. No one invited so how to eat?? Hee hee... 

Talking about work, I'll be moving on to a new work place next month. Alhamdulillah.. rezeki anak-anak, I believe that. It was hard tendering my resignation letter to my current employer but she understands. She's a great leader and I learned a lot from her, thank you Puan DH. Gonna miss you ... 

I actually have a lot to write about. Yes, I love writing!! I admit that. Been wanting to get my hands on the computer at night but I'd be too tired to think. Then I'll mess up my vocab and grammer when my brain does not compute. Later.. I promise.

Borneo Bodoh Lagi

"... tp perempuan Sarawak kebykkannya slut and bitch. dh la kampung, hutan plak tu. benci ak... "

Oh dear god... Have you gone stupid or donkey?? You do not post insensitive statements online, bodoh! Yes bodoh! I am talking to you!!

Sik cukup kah? I really do not know what to say. People, read up there, Borneo Love. We Borneo people are full of love and respect for one another.. you should follow suit. Learn.. learn... Want to be bad? Not online lah.. aiyo aiyo aiyoyoyoyo!! B.O.D.O.H..

So embarrassing ... can you sleep at night?? Hani orrr... whoever you are. Slut, bitch.. a lot of those kind in this world of ours. Kampung, hutan .. Ha haa.. what she said actually tickles me. LOL. Funny because she's stupid for making that kind of statement on FB and I 'envy' her for  having a 'Fan' page. So famous lah her... keh keh keh..

Maybe when she put up that statement she didn't realize that people can R.E.A.D...?? What was she thinking?? Angry? Okay... but Not OnLine dear!! NEVER. This is no donkey, she's a turkey.


She's Done. 

Perfect Sunday

I have been eating like what lately! My pants are tightening... looks like I will have to stop that eat-anything-I-want attitude. Do not want to have to go shopping for new pairs of pants now do we? For next couple of months my extra cash is for the-gorgeous-pair I've been wanting for quite a while. 

D perfect day for me is definitely having everyone home and cook lunch/dinner for us all. It does not need to be complicated dishes ... What's important is it's home cooked, simple, yummy and healthy!! (well.. not that healthy.. the fish were deep fried.. hee hee...)

It has been a long time since I cooked. Sayang said to me last night, "Can you cook tomorrow?" I answered him with a smile, "Of course, we go to the supermarket laaa.."

All I needed was garlic, small red onion and the meat/veges.

The fish were gorgeous and delicious and pricey!!! The 3 pieces (big) cost me RM21.00! I love fish and so do abang and the kids. I wouldn't mind spending slightly extra for good fish pieces... Then there's the tauge and chicken fillets.

To make the buttered/cream chicken, you need to deep fry the chicken fillets dipped with flour first, set aside and get the curry leaves, garlics and evaporated milk ready. Without the curry leaves, I would just rather make ayam kicap. It's amazing what the curry leaves do for the recipe, so aromatic and tasty!

curry leaves, deep fried chicken fillets, blanched broccoli florets and the essential garlics and red onions. 

what is fresh fried fish without the cecah kicap with chili and lime juice??

sayang saw some guy biting into the crispy lettuce on a cooking channel, so I got him a big ball, to be served with thousand island dressing

the creamy buttered chicken, ready to eat

lunch is served!

Kids fed, sayang kenyang and happy.. I'm relieved! Nothing compares to home cooked meal. And we are in no hurry on this lovely Sunday evening. Usually abang would be busy doing his packing, getting ready to go back to Sibu. He'll be traveling to K.L. this week so sayang stays in Kuching tonight :))

A lot of changes will happen in February, good changes, for both me & sayang. Though it is good, I am a little bit nervous and scared. Changes scare me. You don't know what's coming your way but greater expectations makes you go a bit ga-ga, I guess. Like being married for the first time, I suppose. The first night together is nerve wrecking, first time sleeping together.......  whooopssyyy, where am I going here..?? We were talking about what ah??

Well, the thing that I look forward to the most is, sayang being in Kuching. And I think we can even do a JV!! That'd be exciting, I wonder how it's like working with your husband, but both of us represents two totally different organizations. Wouldn't that be cute??! haa... haa ... We'll see...

After a hearty meal, me and sayang went to Spring. I need a new pair of sandals/shoes. The ones I'm wearing above are literally falling apart. It's only a matter of time that I'm gonna embarrass myself wearing a pair of slippers with the strap ripped off from the sole. Guess what?! I did't get the much needed new pair of shoes. We ended buy few tops for ourselves, including the ones we're wearing above.

Whenever I'm moving on to a new work place, I would get myself some new stuffs. Shoes, shirts, underwear ... whatever. But of course, these are pretty inexpensive clothes!! Very very affordable and worth every penny spent. 

When we got back home Arman was already sleeping.. sleeping in his new MU's jersey with the mini soccer ball. Yup!! He's an MU fan, like his dad and his mom!!  :)) Good night Man sayang.

Time to get things ready for work and school tomorrow ... later dudes!

Moving On ..

Feel like some meat this morning. Trying to chill, before the big moment, in few hours. Won't be easy but must get it done. 

Meat.. eggs (forgot to buy them last weekend) ... Bread, abis dah. I fried some chicken nuggets and having them for breakfast now. Will have to get ready soon, work work work! I honestly don't know what her reaction is gonna be, I just wanna get it done and over with. So nerve wrecking!!

At this time, no one is gonna be there to assist me, no committee members nor assistants. This one's you're on your own babe! Just me and her ... Ouch!! Memang takut, how not takut lorr.. You know that people have hope and expectations, knowing that they gonna have to find replacement to keep the things going is making you feel a bit guilty. 

But I've got to do this for myself and specially for my family. If I can get more, why should I turn it down? The day has finally come for me to move on and go forward.